Betrayal in a couple may be due to the arrival of a baby that destabilizes the relationship of the new parents, here’s how to deal with it.
Betrayal in a couple can be the consequence of the arrival of a baby at home. When this is the cause, it can sometimes be overcome and transformed into a new opportunity. Here’s how to deal with the situation.
Betrayal after the arrival of a baby: how to deal with it
With the arrival of the first child, the couple goes through a very complex moment of transition that will lead them to become a couple of new parents. This moment is very difficult for all new parents and can lead to estrangement of the two lovers.
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The energy of the couple is almost totally invested in the care of the newborn and this leads to a loss both on an emotional and sexual level. The child requires a lot of energy from both of them, the couple must team up to take care of it. However, if taking care of the child becomes the only goal of the couple then mom and dad will move further and further away.
According to the psychologist from marmocchio.it, Dr. Francesca Camisa Parmesan, to overcome a betrayal it is important to understand why it happened: to hide a desire, a fear or both.
Sometimes the anxiety in front of the thought of death can lead to wonder what would happen if he betrays himself and to give in to curiosity.
The search for something new can also lead to cheating
Or the search for attention and the desire to find forgotten parts of oneself, which want to come back to the surface.
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Here is when it is possible to turn the crisis into an opportunity for growth for both:
- sometimes the remorse, the repentance of those who have betrayed, help to mend and heal the wound of the other
- when the one who has betrayed tries to regain the trust of the other
- when it is possible to talk about the betrayal in a frank and open way as well as the desires hidden behind
- when it is possible not to exacerbate the tension in the relationship with details of the betrayal
- when you work on your self-esteem by reinforcing it with activities or situations that return positive feedback regarding our identity
It is often necessary to remember that in these situations there is no victim or executioner because betrayal can be translated into acts of neglect, indifference and devaluation.
If alone you cannot overcome the suffering created by this betrayal, you can resort to couple therapy. A therapist can help break the vicious circle that is created in these situations with repetitive attitudes and dynamics that only feed a mutual misunderstanding.
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Dear unimamme, did you happen to find yourself in this situation? What do you think of the doctor’s advice?